Meaningful support instead of helplessness Berlin in January 2011. Some contend that Albert Bandura shows great expertise in this. The new year you like commits with good intentions: weight loss, more exercise, less alcohol and cigarettes. A good resolution for the new year could be but also the deep desire more and more on the needs of the own environment to enter by one allows a little more also on difficult issues. Mourning has little place in our society. Those who it may concern, undergo this process largely alone since about sympathy wishes, often little will give them support and assistance in the family and circle of friends to part.
It has under circumstances so to do, that friends and relatives feel helpless and worry have to make mistakes. In fact, are grieving in an emergency situation, can be very sensitive and withdraw quickly. This is often with awkward, inappropriate from helplessness comments of people who think it really well. In the future better to cope with such situations, there are some meaningful assistance that help someone who wants to help a grieving, more security and the feeling of the grieving person, to be in good hands. First of all, it is very important to bring all popular ideas about how to settle on the individual situation and the grief of those affected without ratings with death and mourning in the background.
This includes the type, as the person concerned is in mourning, but also the time he needs it. “” Encouraging meant comments and remarks, such as: you’re still young and need to forward look. “and be glad that he’s not long suffered.” Can possibly contributing to the process itself closes the mourners in and pulls back, because he is in his situation not seen and misunderstood feels misunderstood. Ultimately, it is to concede space and time of mourning and to be empathetic listening to him there for the mourners. Rather than cautious, too brisk or too cautious to react, it is important that the “others to say: I would like for you since I don’t know how and I’m afraid to do something wrong.” Such an open and honest statement, the friend or family member can start with often much more, as with Thisis and quiet retreat, which often enormously hurtful acts. Exactly the opposite of what you actually wanted to do. Ways to help and support can be searched together on the basis of openness and honesty. It belongs to the rather untrained listeners remain many small and large Alltagsdinge, a mourner man has to deal with. Again, support is needed and very welcome. After the death of a close relative’s to handle much, what usually little power available is concerned, because he has to cope with the loss of a loved one. Applies also here: everyone like and what he can. This ranges from car bring to the inspection, about shopping, cooking, Babysitting, help Office gears up for the drive to the doctor’s appointment etc. Errors can happen to anyone who does something. But an avoidable error is to leave a friend from helplessness, alone in the bereavement.