He is obvious that the people react and if they reveal of different forms when expressing (or not) its feelings for who wants that is. The people have dimensions and degrees of different intensities in what they feel for the others He is positive and adult to accept this. Now to compactuar with this already is another thing All good. Partially, we make this: In special situations of diseases as we will see, below Socially with relatives and people who we do not support for a question of acceptable minimum convivncia. But, that is a social mask. It would be a perpetual war if thus we did not make it Why we choose ' ' certas' ' people as friends and not others? Because we identify, we feel (sees the verb of ' ' amizade' ' she is TO FEEL — of the LOVE, also it she is) that with SOME PEOPLE we have more AFFECTIVE proximity — more LOVING EXCHANGE — more COMPLICITY — more LOVE! What I want to say that is natural that let us tend to interact with people who we perceive — we feel and we notice, inequivocadamente, that these people ' ' in questo' ' , in degrees and intensities varied (from an expression ' ' mnima' ' that we accept as of REPLY AND AFFECTIVE INTERACTION) of some form tolerable they correspond and they repay to our FEELINGS Now, when the person in question, object of our AFFECTION, has a contained skill — cold — restrained — absentee — distant to reveal its feelings in relation to we (if are that they exist, ' ' mesmos' ' ) to persist thus in a relationship — in one he changes inexistent (or not-expressed) of affection, ternura, affinities in a general way, discloses that we feed ' ' inside of ns' ' — MASOCHISTIC contents This identifies and nominates that we do not respect ours ' ' prprios' ' feelings — our selfishness — our only personal essence.